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Jaclyn Gallo - Getting Your Hopes Up
Jaclyn Gallo is a nationally-recognized Speaker and 2x best-selling Author inspiring audiences to embrace optimism and never give up. She’s the host of the Spark Your Light podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% of all podcasts globally, with listeners in 96 countries. Jaclyn’s work has been featured by Forbes, Business Insider, and Good Morning Washington.
Jaclyn’s entrepreneurial dreams were born in her college dorm room at Georgetown University, where she took a leap of faith and pursued her first business idea. It was a total failure, but applying the lessons she learned, Jaclyn built a thriving company helping others use their failures as a springboard to achieve their goals, just like she did.
Jaclyn has spoken on hundreds of stages at conferences, corporations, and universities. She has delivered keynotes to top organizations including TEDx, Princeton University, Deloitte, and Comcast NBCUniversal. She is also certified as a Life & Success Coach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner.
Website: https://forcollegeforlife.com/jaclyn/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaclyntgallo/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaclyntgallo/
Hello, everyone, and welcome to the latest episode of the For College for Life podcast. My name is Casey Cornelius. I'm the founder and president of For College for Life, America's leading college speaking agency. And I'm also the host of this podcast. I get the opportunity to chat with our speakers and facilitators and consultants, the people who help us earn that title each and every day. And I love the chance to get to know these folks in a in a really deep way, in a way that's interesting and learn more about what makes them tick. Even people that I've known for months and months and years and years and worked with very closely, I still learn something new each and every time we hit record. And I just have a strange feeling that today is going to be one of those days as well. The person I'm bringing to the mic is one of our newer speakers, and I want to tell you a little bit about her before we get started, just so that you can have a sense of her background and all the things that make her so dynamic. So before I bring her to the microphone, let me tell you a little bit about Jacqueline Gallo. She's a nationally recognized speaker and two-time best-selling author, inspiring audiences to embrace optimism and never give up. She's the host of a podcast too. It's called the Spark Your Light Podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% of all podcasts globally. Wow, talk about it. With listeners in 96 countries. Jacqueline's work has been featured by Forbes, Business Insider, and Good Morning Washington. Her entrepreneurial dreams were bored in her college dorm room at Georgetown University, where she took a leap of faith and pursued her first business idea. It was a total failure, she says. Gonna get into that here in just a second. But applying the lessons that she learned, she built a thriving company helping others use their failures as a springboard to achieve their goals, just like she did. She's spoken on hundreds of stages at conferences, corporations, and universities. She's delivered keynotes to top organizations like TEDx, Princeton University, Deloitte, Comcast NBC Universal. She's also a certified life and success coach and neurolinguistic programming practitioner. Yes, I did have to practice that part. Neurolinguistic programming practitioner. And without further ado, I want to bring to the bike none other than Jacqueline Gallo. Jacqueline, did I do okay with that really awesome bio of yours?
SPEAKER_00:You did wonderful. I was smiling so big when you said that you had a feeling this conversation would bring some new insights.
SPEAKER_02:I have this feeling. I because, you know, even we're gonna pull back the curtain. Even before we pressed record, I learned something new about you just in the course of our conversation. I'm not gonna share that detail with our audience, but I'm telling you, every time we do this, I end up learning something new about how awesome our folks are. And and it just makes me by the way, did I get that part right? Neurolinguistic programming practitioner?
SPEAKER_00:You nailed it.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:All right, it rolls off the tongue. All right, so I have to to ask the question that I hinted to uh in in the intro. So you are a student at Georgetown University in Washington, DC, and your first entrepreneurial dream was born, as you say, in your dorm room. You say it was a total failure. But but what was the story behind that?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, so my freshman year of college, I developed an eating disorder. Just dive right into the hard stuff, and it resulted from what I believe was the college environment. It was really interesting to me because growing up, I never had any issues with food, with body image. And when I was at Georgetown, it was very competitive. And I noticed that a lot of the women were constantly discussing how many calories were in something they were eating, or how many carbs there were, that they shouldn't eat too much sugar. And they had all of these rules. And wanting to fit in, I decided to try some of the rules. And long story short, um, I developed essentially a very intensified yo-yo diet where I would, you know, cut out a food group of some kind of fad diet that everyone else was doing, no carbs, and then I would binge eat. And I realized that something was wrong. At the end of my freshman year, I was home from college, my first week home, and my friends were all going out for half-price appetizers at Applebee's after 9 p.m. or something like that. And I was sitting in my bedroom crying, thinking that I couldn't go because if I went, I would binge and then I would feel really sick. And I I never wanted to feel that way, but I just couldn't control it. And I told my mom, I started meeting with the dietitian at Georgetown, who is an amazing um dietitian. Her name is Allison Tepper, and she actually has a virtual practice as well, um, helping with eating disorders. If anyone's listening can relate to anything I'm saying and wants professional support. And fortunately, through that support, I was able to heal my relationship with food in my body. And I learned about something called intuitive eating, where you focus on what your body is craving and what your body wants as opposed to all of these food rules. And within about two years, I really felt healed. And one of the biggest things that helped me was cutting these crazy diets. So as I was approaching my senior year of college, I had an interesting turning point in my life. Part one was this newfound spark behind eating all the food groups and listening to my body and my new definition of health. And part two was coming off an internship at a large corporation that felt utterly unfulfilling to me. And I knew right away that I was not going to fit in corporate. And I didn't want to waste any time. I felt like if I just got a job in order to do the thing you're supposed to do, I would come to the same conclusion that I had already come to. So I thought that my best bet was to start a business before entering my senior year of college. That way the business could grow. And what I thought would mean that it could support me. And so when everyone asked me the big question, what are you doing after graduation? I could tell them I'm working for my business and it already pays me a salary. Now it didn't turn out like that, but that's that's how the story began. And so I decided to create a plate that was a pineapple design and it encouraged a person to eat all the food groups and it followed the USDA guidelines for a balanced meal, which is what my dietitian taught me, which is what really helped me. So that was the intention. And it did end up being an epic failure. I am not exaggerating. I ordered$10,000 worth of plates. I got the money. Um, I borrowed$6,000 from my parents, and I saved up$4,000 waitressing on campus at a local restaurant. And I had the plates stored in my grandmother's garage. And I sold them only to people who knew me family, friends, aunts, uncles, and once they had cast that circle of people, no one wanted that. And I felt that maybe there was a chance that I could have continued to put my head down and and try to get this idea to take off. Or I could just cut my losses and realize that just because this thing helped me, I didn't do any market research. I didn't do a lot of the things that you're supposed to do in entrepreneurship because I didn't know any better and I didn't have the right guidance. And that's okay. I learned all that through my first idea. So I decided that it was time to just cut the losses and go into the next thing. Unfortunately, I don't think I really learned the lessons yet of needing to do the market research and all these things. I just thought, well, it's not a product, it must be an app. So then I tried to build an app. I didn't have any more money. So I raised$20,000 on Kickstarter, which was extremely difficult. One of the most challenging things as an 18-year-old to do in a 30-day span. But I did it. And I used that$20,000 to hire college student developers. Unfortunately, these developers did not have the experience to build an app as complex as I was trying to make. And I was trying to take some of the concepts from the plate coupled with wellness concepts like meditation and workouts and just make this holistic wellness app for women in college. And it ended up being an epic failure. I ran out of money. The developers couldn't take it any further. It was crashing, it had bugs. At this point, again, I came to a crossroads where I either had to raise more money so that I could hire more experienced developers or pivot again. And this is around the time where I had started speaking. But I didn't call it speaking, I called it marketing. So I was actually going around to sororities locally in the Philadelphia area where I live, as well as virtually all over the country on Zoom. And I would give a 30-minute talk sharing my story of overcoming my eating disorder, improving my body image. And I did this with the intention of raising awareness for the brand I was building, building users for the app I was building. But what I realized is that I was actually really good at the speaking part. And that part in and of itself was an end. It was something that helped people. It hit on the exact mission I was trying to hit on as an entrepreneur, just in a different way. And so I decided to run with it. And it finally worked. And that's kind of how I got here and the story of the businesses.
SPEAKER_02:Well, but thank thank goodness you you did. I I um I think that there's probably a lot that people can relate to in that evolution, right? Um, but there are there's a couple of things that sort of jumped out as you were describing that journey, right? So you talked about the notion of of cutting your losses, like deciding, hey, look, this thing that I thought was the plan is is not going to work. I think you probably hear this from folks too. That's a really hard, not only mental process, but emotional process to get to, right? Like where you go, you know, this is this is not the answer. I need to do something else. How did you how did you manage that both both you know intellectually, but also emotionally, this thing that that you had assigned your identity to, your purpose to, your future to, you're telling people like, yep, I'm I've already got the salary. How did you how did you get past that process of cutting your losses?
SPEAKER_00:I think it's twofold. So emotionally, I used journaling. That is a huge tool in my life. It has been for most of my life. I even think back on my childhood and I found journals that I would fill out as a kid, and they were very basic and simple, but I would write in them. I went to the pool with Allison today and we did this, and it evolved as I got older. And throughout college, I journaled. I remember one time my New Year's resolution was to journal every day, and I actually turned it into something that was very stressful. And every night before bed, I'd be like, I have to journal, uh, which is so funny because journaling is supposed to be something that is releasing. But somewhere along the way, I learned to use it as a tool to process my emotions and write out the way I was feeling. And so I would just brain dump everything I was feeling and I would do it even when it wasn't the most appropriate time. Meaning, yes, it's nice to journal in your bed when you're comfortable and maybe you have a cup of tea. But sometimes I was trying to study at the library because keep in mind I was a full-time college student trying to build a business. I had a long-distance boyfriend who was now my husband. I had so many pieces of my life that I was trying to manage. And sometimes I would be at the library studying and I couldn't focus because I was emotionally distraught. And I didn't even have my journal with me. So I would take out a note on my phone and I would just brain dump. I feel like a failure. Maybe I should give up. Maybe I would be happier if I just took that job. And I would just let my mind, I wouldn't judge my thoughts. So that was a really big part of the emotional process. The other part that I think is really important and actually ties into what I speak about today. I focused more on the vision I had that was beyond one small circumstance. So instead of the circumstance of my plates being a successful product or the app being successful, I wanted to be successful as an entrepreneur. I wanted to be successful as someone who had their own business and who helped people. That's what I wanted, who felt fulfilled and also earned enough money to have a great life. Those were the two things I wanted. And so I was so focused on that end goal that I didn't let the micro failures, even though they felt like macro failures, I didn't let them detract from knowing that I was going to hit the eventual goal in the future. I made them mean nothing about my ability to reach my big goals. And because of that, I was so focused on this concept of the only way I can fail is if I quit. And I just kept telling myself that over and over again. And I didn't want to fail. Failing and giving up on myself felt like the worst thing I could do. I also had a really powerful motivator in the background, and it is my father's story. So time that I remember the most learning this lesson in my childhood was a specific day. It was a Saturday afternoon. I think I was around seven. And my dad and I were running errands. My mom is definitely a matriarch. She makes the long to-do list, all the things, and would send my dad out, do things, do that, pick up that. And I was the youngest of two girls, well, three girls. I have two older sisters and significantly younger, 10 and seven years younger. So oftentimes I was kind of like my dad's little pet. And my sisters would be helping my mom with more uh mature things. Maybe they'd be cooking dinner or something, and I'd be on errands with my dad. So on this particular day, my dad is picking something up for my mom in a shopping center in our town. And so we're parked right out front of this shopping center. And my dad points to the building on the corner and he says, See that building? I'm like, Yeah. He said, I almost bought it just before you were born. I was like, What? Yeah, I didn't even know what this meant.
SPEAKER_01:Right.
SPEAKER_00:And he said, Yeah, I had a dream of opening my own business. I wanted to start a deli and a seafood market. But my father talked me out of it. He said it was too risky. I was having my third daughter, and it's just not a risk I could take. And it's the biggest regret I have of my life. And I watched my dad from that point on always struggle in his career, always living with that regret and talking about it frequently. I mean, I can remember probably hundreds of times at family dinner where he mentions it. And so that was a huge motivator for me that regret truly is one of the most painful feelings in the world because my hero, the strongest person in my world, felt so much pain because he didn't pursue the thing he wanted for his life. And I knew that the feeling of regret would be worse than the feeling of any failure. And so I just felt like I didn't have a choice in giving up because it would be even more painful. And I think that that also really helped me, having that strong why behind me and seeing someone that I loved really suffer throughout his life because of that decision. So I think the combination of the journaling, changing the way I saw failure, and then that strong why were really the three things that helped me get through it.
SPEAKER_02:What's amazing to me is that that he talked about it openly too, right? I mean, I think I think all of us have um moments of of pause or regret or or failures in our life. I I think that the the difference in the distinction is to to the extent to which someone is willing to to open up about them. I mean, the old adage is you're more likely to regret what you don't do than what you do. And for him to to talk so honestly with you, even as a young child, about that, um, that that shows a lot about who your father is, too.
SPEAKER_00:It does. And I think it's really interesting because you can hear the quote or read it on the internet, but it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't have any umph behind it. And I used to think that you had to live experiences. I think about having a baby and how everyone told me how my world was going to change and how different my life would be. And I just couldn't comprehend it until I lived it. But this is an experience that I didn't live myself. I mean, I guess you could say I had secondhand living. I lived with my father, who often showed emotions related to this, but I didn't live it myself. And so I think it's really important as leaders that we do share our stories of times that we regret, of decisions that we wished we made differently. Because I think that secondhand experience really can add so much value to a random quote that you see on the internet that means nothing to you.
SPEAKER_02:It's really profound, especially in in um the entrepreneurship space, you know. So um I I will I will confess to those those listening when when people tell me sometimes that they're entrepreneurs, I I kind of I smile inwardly, right? Because it's an it's an easy title to uh to take on, and it's a really hard title to earn, right? Because it it takes some some scar tissue, it takes some some bumps and bruises to to really own that title, wouldn't you agree?
SPEAKER_00:A hundred percent. And it's interesting because anyone can claim it, especially in today's world. I think that it's a becoming very popularized, and I don't think entrepreneurship is for everyone or should be for everyone. Right. No company would exist if there weren't employees, also. So I think we need both. Um, but it is a title that if you can only own it in the way you live, then you'll be successful with it.
SPEAKER_02:Agreed. Folks, if if you're not yet familiar, please make sure that you check out uh Jacqueline's page and and programs. Uh it's for CollegeForlife.com slash Jacqueline. That's spelled J-A-C-L-Y-N, by the way. J-A-C-L-Y-N, to learn more about her and her signature programs and so forth. Jacqueline, I imagine that there's probably some students, some professionals who are listening to this podcast, and there's something else in the evolution of your story that that really jumped out. And without naming names, without naming names, you had mentioned that you had a pretty unfulfilling internship. Can you talk about that experience as a student? How um the this thing that I'm sure that you expected to be awesome and great and so so fun and enlightening didn't didn't end up being what you expected.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. I had such a clear vision of what I wanted for my career. And I think a lot of students might find themselves in that position. My dream job was to work for a large company and do marketing and climb the corporate ladder. And my first step was to land that perfect internship. And I did. And I was so excited about it. And it's funny, I actually loved a lot of things about it. I liked going to work every day and getting to make friends and have lunch in the cafeteria and having my own desk and a lot of the kind of culture. I don't have anything poorly to say about that. The company that I worked for had a very positive culture. But in the actual day-to-day work, I quickly realized that I was a small cog in a large machine. And even though I went into marketing because I thought it was creative, there was very little creativity that I actually was allowed to implement because there were many rules. And beyond the rules there was also a very, very, very large ship that was hard to move. So even if I had an idea and my boss who was also incredible thought it was amazing, then she would say, well we have to get copy written from this team and we have to get a budget approved from this team. And then we would wait weeks and weeks and weeks. And I started to feel so frustrated because as an ambitious person, I had so many ideas and I just wanted to implement my ideas and run with them. But I couldn't and that was the epitome of my frustration. I came to the conclusion that it was better for me to come up with my own ideas and implement them myself than have to wait for all of these people to work with them. But before I got to that point, I did give it one last shot. I met with one of the VPs at the company I was very ambitious. I would constantly schedule myself on their calendars and they would often tell me that no interns ever meet with them, by the way. They're like who is the student who is yes my personal advice would be go for it. Like try to meet with if you're doing an internship um some of the leaders a lot of times they just haven't um had students take the initiative and a lot of times they're very impressed by that initiative and you can learn so much from them. So one of the VPs was actually extremely encouraging. I told him about all my frustrations with the company and he suggested this concept called entrepreneurship where I could come up with my own ideas and implement them within a larger company. I could work for the company and I thought it was this fantastic idea. So I designed um a slide deck for this big idea I had that I thought would totally revolutionize the company and I told him I wanted to present it. So he emailed it out to a few people and told me that unfortunately we would have to review it when I was already graduated and then see if the idea was feasible and if it was then they could consider hiring me in a role where I could lead that idea. And ultimately I didn't want to put my destiny into someone else's hands that maybe they would think my idea was good enough when I knew I had great ideas and I wanted to implement them myself. So that was my journey. I don't think that all um all companies or experiences are are like that. And it's funny because looking back as I've evolved just as a mature adult and my mindset has changed and I've learned a lot about myself, I actually think today you could put me in any scenario and I could thrive. I mean given that it was a healthy culture and things like that, I think I could work for someone I think I could work for a big business. I think I could work for a small business because I just have a completely different mindset. So it's funny that you know my 21-year-old self had a completely different experience than maybe my almost 30-year-old self but I do feel that it's really important to try things and get to know yourself and the areas that you thrive so that as you pursue your career goals, you can make choices that really align with you and know that it's okay if you change your mind. I hear a lot of students feel anxious when they have this vision and they try it out in an internship and they don't love it as much as they thought they would because they feel like they've wasted so much time and energy. But most things we can pivot, we can apply our learnings and it's better to make the changes when you're 20 or 22 than when you're 45. So you might as well stay true to yourself, try things early, get as much internship experience as you can and just keep trusting yourself and what sparks your life.
SPEAKER_02:I love it. I love it. By the way if you're listening to this and you feel like that that message uh belongs in the ears of someone make sure you share this podcast episode with uh with that person uh I I suspect that they're going to find it pretty helpful. Uh Jacqueline there's a there's a word that you've used a few times along the way and I think it's one that I would connect with with you and your messages most and that is mindset. And I want to talk a little bit about um one of your signature programs and the and uh a topic and a title that I think is just so uh timely. It's it's so so needed and necessary right now. So if you could talk a little bit about the evolution and and the the signature message of get your hopes up where you challenge folks to unleash the life-changing power of optimism.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah so as someone who has been speaking for many years now I kind of thought that I had a lot of this mindset stuff figured out after all I was giving keynotes about resilience and the power of your mindset and a lot of the concepts that we've talked about here. But it's funny how life always seems to know the exact lesson that we need. And sometimes it's not always at the most easy time in our life, but it sure does teach us a lot. So on February 7th, 2024, my son Michael was born he weighed four pounds six ounces and was immediately taken to the NICU and soon transferred to the children's hospital of Philadelphia where he was diagnosed with a rare condition called hyperinsulinism, which causes his pancreas to overproduce insulin, resulting in dangerously low blood sugar. My husband and I moved into Michael's shared windowless hospital room as first-time parents which as you can imagine was extremely challenging. But we did our best to stay positive. Michael's doctors assured us that our stay would be short. Unfortunately there was only one FDA approved drug called dias oxide to treat hyperinsulinism, but it worked for most children. Michael, on the other hand, did not respond well to this medication. After weeks of testing it, Michael's doctors decided to place him on an overnight fast to see if he could maintain his blood sugar without breast milk if he passed the fast then we could finally go home. This was Michael's seventh overnight fast. So by this point I was exhausted from what felt like an endless string of disappointment. So in an effort to boost my spirits I made a personal resolution to stop getting my hopes up and here's where it gets interesting. Instead of feeling better like I thought I would I actually felt worse I realized that despite our best efforts we can't avoid disappointment. We can pretend we don't want something we can push away our desires and lie to ourselves but deep down we want what we want and when we don't get what we want we feel disappointed whether we have our hopes up or not and that is the theme of my keynote get your hopes up because I think so many of us have gone through our lives falsely assuming that keeping our hopes low will protect us from disappointment. But I am sure that every single one of you listening can think of a time in your life where you purposely didn't get your hopes up and the situation still resulted in disappointment. So if that's true if disappointment is unavoidable then what's the power of hope and that's what that's what my message is all about. Hope can be a strategy there's a very famous saying hope is not a strategy and I politely disagree with that. Hope is more than just wishful thinking and in my keynote I talk about the drawbacks of optimism when optimism is not the most appropriate choice because it's not recommended in all circumstances. But for a lot of circumstances it's not only appropriate but it's also extremely beneficial. And I know hope was a strategy for me in the hospital and in many other times in my life in building my business in my career. And I know hope can be a strategy for everyone listening.
SPEAKER_02:And so my keynote inspires listeners to be willing to get their hopes up even though sometimes that will result in disappointment because it's worth it I imagine that there's like I'm I'm smiling listening to this just because it it resonates so much with me and and I I know why it resonates with audiences as well. But I imagine that there's there's a pushback right and it might even be a a bit of a cynical pushback that um optimism can be dangerous, right? Like when when we're overly optimistic or when we think everything's going to to work out um despite evidence to the contrary I imagine that that folks can be fearful of putting themselves out there like that.
SPEAKER_00:Is that the the most frequent pushback that you get on this notion definitely and that's why I address it very early on in the keynote because I know for a fact there are people in the audience who say I'm a realist if you might be listening and smiling really big because you call yourself that right and so I want this message to land with everyone and I know it can. And so from the very beginning I actually talk about what optimism is and what it isn't. I think there's a lot of misconceptions. People think that optimism is about pretending that life is sunshine and rainbows or even that it's about positive thinking, right? Like if I said optimism is about positive thinking true or false most people would say true. I would say false. Optimism is actually about changing your inner narrative when you fail. It's about saying less destructive things to yourself in the face of adversity. And all of my content comes from positive psychology and decades of research. So through this research optimism is something that has helped people on so many levels. And as I mentioned earlier it's not appropriate in all situations. So that's another thing that I addressed early on optimism is never appropriate in situations where the cost of failure is high. So the example that I give in my keynote is planning for an emergency. It would never be appropriate to use optimism when planning for an emergency fund. Say right nothing is going to go wrong. We don't need any savings. And then all of a sudden you can't pay your mortgage or you can't feed your children and you say but Jacqueline told me to be optimist absolutely not that is not what optimism is about. On the other hand optimism is appropriate in any situation where you're experiencing adversity and you can change the course of that adversity. So for example when most people fail especially people who struggle with pessimism they attribute that adversity to permanent pervasive and internal causes. So for example let's say for the business failure that I experienced a permanent cause would be something like I'm not smart enough versus a temporary cause which an optimistic person would attribute the failure to might be something like I don't have enough experience yet. So what that implies is I can go get the experience to get better. And so it's not a permanent cause, right? And then pervasive for the pessimist is something that not only impacts this one area or this one experience, but it impacts everything. So I'm not smart enough would be also pervasive because if I'm not smart enough to run a business, I'm also not smart enough to thrive in a relationship or to manage my finances, right? Versus I don't have enough experience marketing a product is a really specific thing, but I can go get that experience and it's not going to hold me back in all the other areas. And then the last category is internal or external. So are you blaming yourself or are you blaming something outside of you? Now one of the other caveats that I mention uh in the beginning of my keynote about what optimism is and isn't and when it's appropriate and when it isn't appropriate, it's never appropriate when you need to take personal responsibility for a situation. You always need to be self-accountable period this is appropriate for situations where you're blaming yourself, but really you don't need to be blaming yourself. So for instance with the business example instead of saying you know it's it's totally my fault I'm the one who had these terrible ideas and blah, blah, blah, blah, an external cause, an optimist might say, you know, it wasn't the right time in the market for this app, um, or the developers didn't have the experience versus I led the project poorly and I failed. And so those things matter because when we change the words that we use and the way we describe and internalize and attribute cause to our failures, then we are less likely to become helpless. And it's really interesting, there was a fascinating study done by Dr. Martin Sligman, who's a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, where he actually had dogs receive a light, gentle shock. And he had two different groups of dogs and one group of dogs could control the shock. So if they pressed a button, then they would no longer be shocked. The shock would stop. And the other group of dogs couldn't control it. So it was incontrollable. And after they experienced a period of time under this shock, then he moved the dogs and placed them in a new um cage you could call it they called it a shuttle box. And basically it was a cage that had a teeny teeny teeny barrier that they could easily jump over to another side. And on the other side there was no shock. So there's only shock on one side. Well the dogs who experienced the controllable shock immediately jumped over. But the dogs who experienced the inescapable shock, they actually just lied down and became helpless. They didn't move they didn't try to get out and the only way to get them to go to the other side was actually to physically drag them and show them that there was no shock. This was so fascinating to Dr. Sligman that he wanted to find out if it were also true in humans. So they continued to do more experiments and found that the same thing was true in people. And so then he wanted to figure out well what is it about the people who were exposed to the inescapable circumstances but still chose to get out meaning they didn't become helpless because there was a small percentage of people about two in every 10 that despite the inescapable adversity they still continued to fight back. They never became helpless. And what he found is that the key was optimism. So this isn't just something to make you feel good. This isn't just something to you know boost your spirits that is great. It's great to feel good but ultimately it's something to make you resilient to give you the courage you need to pursue your goals and more importantly the resilience to achieve them.
SPEAKER_02:So it's really powerful and while there are people who might criticize it when you understand what optimism really is and the science behind it and when it should be applied and when it's not appropriate, there's no reason to push back and beside I mean like let me defend this for just a second on your behalf besides what's the alternative right like what is pessimism like that that seems like a really bad strategy as well and it seems like the the negative potential outcomes of pessimism are are so many multiple times greater than than optimism.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah and um one of my favorite studies on pessimism is actually that um uh researchers implanted cancerous tumors um into rats and um I don't know how they tested for pessimism I don't remember that part of the study but it it's it's um part of the same research under Dr. Sligman. And essentially the the pessimistic rats, um the tumors grew faster. So it actually can cause so many negative events in your life physically emotionally it's very fascinating.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah I I I love this and and my hunch is that uh there's a lot of people right now who who want to know more about this and and your other programs as well. So again please folks if if you would visit for college for life dot com slash jaclyn J A C L Y N for Collegeforlife dot com slash Jaclyn Jacqueline we we probably could talk about this for hours Um, but but want to be mindful of time and make sure everyone can listen to this this podcast in one sitting. So uh want to get you out of here on some uh some quick hit questions if you'd like. I got five of them. Are you ready?
SPEAKER_00:I'm ready.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. All right. So uh you referenced being a relatively newer mom. So this question is purely hypothetical, of course. But let's imagine for a second, you have an entire day to binge watch anything. What do you choose? And it can't be bluey.
SPEAKER_00:I would watch, and I did this in my early days of being a mom. I don't know if you can fit it all in one day. It took a couple days. I would watch all of the Harry Potters in order.
SPEAKER_02:In order. Okay. How many out? Like that's that's a that's a commitment.
SPEAKER_00:I've done it a couple times. Not in one day. It would, it will take like a couple of weeks usually, and just you know, any free night. My husband and I will watch them. I loved them as a kid. I read some of the books. I will admit that I I didn't even read all of the books as a kid. I remember thinking these are just so long.
SPEAKER_02:There's a lot, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:But as an adult, I think there are just so many great messages that I that I really believe in.
SPEAKER_02:And again, recognizing the fact that it is hypothetical for for any uh parent of of a of a young human being to have a full day to do whatever they want. Um, it's it's good to know. I I wonder how many people would agree with the Harry Potter one. That's good. All right, second question.
SPEAKER_01:Jack, what is the most used app on your phone? This is probably a lame answer, but I'm gonna say like the text message app.
SPEAKER_02:Are you a are you a texter? Is that your is that your go-to?
SPEAKER_00:Um I'm just not really a social media er. So I feel there's not that many other apps, maybe FaceTime or call that I use, but it's funny because a lot of my business is on social media, but I've actually found through experience that scrolling social media just drains my energy. So I do it very infrequently. And when I do it, it's usually very intentional. Like I'm looking for a recipe, I'm looking for an outfit, and I'll um go on and look for something specific. So I would say that it's not them. And so it's gotta be communicating to people. Maybe Voxer. Do you have you ever used that app?
SPEAKER_02:No, no, no, no. What's that?
SPEAKER_00:Um, it's like a voice messaging app. So a couple of my friends, uh, we we just talk and talk so much that it would just be too long to send like voice messages in the iPhone texting app. So we'll send each other a voice message on there.
SPEAKER_02:Voxer?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, it's great. Okay. You can send like up to 15 minutes of recording yourself.
SPEAKER_02:So my goodness.
SPEAKER_00:Which I do frequently.
SPEAKER_02:You know, it's interesting. Uh quick, quick sidebar. I remember reading this relatively recently that that of all the apps on the phone, like the standard, like you know, come comes with certain apps, the least used one is the phone, like the the actual telephone app.
SPEAKER_00:Wow.
SPEAKER_02:So there you go. Sounds like you're you're right on right on bread with that. All right. Jacqueline, let's imagine for a second that you could have dinner with anyone. Who would you most like to have that dinner with?
SPEAKER_00:Hmm. I think Michael Jordan.
SPEAKER_02:Hmm. Okay, tell me why.
SPEAKER_00:Um, I was just so inspired by his um Netflix docuseries, the one that The Last Dance.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Thank you. Um, I've I've watched it a couple times and I I think it's just had a profound impact on my life. And out of out of all the you know, successful people that I've studied their lives, he just really stands out to me as um really rare. You know, it's it's so special to have someone who has accomplished so much success have the same drive. And I think that in the world we live in today, especially in the entrepreneurship world, I see this a lot. There's so much push for take the easy path, take the easy path. Um it's almost like this energy that other people owe you things. I just it's very icky to me. And it gets worse and worse and worse the more successful people are. And Michael Jordan is the opposite of. And um one of my husband's favorite quotes that he has imparted on me and has now become one of my favorite quotes. Don't know who said it, is um it's hard to be hungry when you've been fed. Michael Jordan was always hungry, even when he was fed. And I really respect that and want to embody that in mind.
SPEAKER_02:You know, that makes it makes a lot of sense with even the things that we've talked about just in in this episode, right? Like mindset, optimism, vision, hope. I my my hunch is that you and Jordan would be right aligned with all those things.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I hope so.
SPEAKER_02:Well, let's see if we can make that happen. If anybody knows Michael Jordan listening to this podcast, let's let's see if we can make that happen. All right. So, Jacqueline, what do you do to wind down? Let's imagine it's the end of the day. You've got some time to yourself. What is your process? What is your routine? What is your ritual to wind down?
SPEAKER_00:Hmm. I would like a cup of tea, some maybe some rama meal, and a book. And and a hot shower. Burn my skin hot. I like it so hot that I get like chills. It's very weird. I don't know why I like that. But apparently I'm not the only one. And the shower will be so long that the hot water he and then I will get in bed and I will I will read myself to sleep.
SPEAKER_02:So you're going to to first take the shower, roast from the outside, then grab the tea, roast from the inside, and then go to sleep.
SPEAKER_00:Yes. And if it is any um health thing in this uh conversation, I am always cold. So maybe that's why I like to roast my entire body.
SPEAKER_02:See, I I knew that we were going to learn something new, new about you. Okay, excellent. All right, last question, I promise. Jaclyn, where can listeners best connect with you? I know that you said that you don't love social media, but if someone wanted to connect with you, where would be the best spot?
SPEAKER_00:I actually love social media for DMs, though I will say that. I think it's just a great way to chat quickly with someone. You don't have to exchange phone numbers and all these things. So please DM me. I I do check it frequently. I just don't scroll. But I I answer all my DMs and I love um chatting with people about my work. So please feel free to reach out.
SPEAKER_02:Is there is there a best spot?
SPEAKER_00:I would say Instagram. DMs is where I spend the most time. And it's at Jacqueline T Gallo.
SPEAKER_02:With the middle initial. Oh, the middle initial.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, because someone else has Jaclyn Gallo. What? Yeah, I know. So I had to just own the middle initial.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, I said it was the last question, but we gotta do it. What's the T stand for?
SPEAKER_00:Teresa.
SPEAKER_02:There you go. There you go. It's the the trivia answer. You've made it all the way to the end of this episode, and you've received the trivia answer. Jacqueline Teresa Gallup. Thank you so much for joining today. This was so much fun.
SPEAKER_00:Thank you so much for having me.
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